Friday, 28 March 2014

How we balance our children's education and run our festival business

A big issue for all schools and families this year are SCHOOL ATTENDANCE PERCENTAGES. Parents can now be fined for taking their children out of school to go on holiday without authorisation from the headteacher.

I started to worry about our small family business.  How were we going to be able to continue running a business we enjoy and have built from scratch? Would we just have to stick to school holiday times? We have bookings year on year, how could we honour those outside the school holidays?  The words "you can't have your cake and eat it!" came back to haunt me.  Words I had been told when we began our business. Those words fuelled my stubborn streak again.  There's nothing like someone telling you, you can't, to make you determined.

Year on year it has become more and more difficult to achieve balance between school attendance and our work. We travel to music festivals from May to September running Kindred Cafe and workshops and hire out our rainbow wheelbarrows. OK, so school closes from the end of July for two months, so from May to July, we wanted some support to continue this little family business growing.

I'm an ex primary school teacher, artist and I run art and craft workshops. My husband is a Health & Safety consultant who risk assesses the things we do. At festivals experts share their knowledge in fun activities and it is this authentic teaching that is often taken back to schools by teachers who have attended festival workshops.  To be taught inside classrooms or in their own school grounds, adapted into their own unique format.  What we do is meant to inspire. It is meant to enable everyone to be creative. Sessions are led by experts in their field (see what I did there ;o).  It is meant to encourage you to want to have a go, in an relaxed, fun way.

Our sons like/d school and college and have no wish to be entirely home schooled.  At school, they have great opportunities to do things they wouldn't at home, they have their school friends. Their time attending festivals has enabled them to learn skills, meet people that inspire and educate them in ways home or school could not. Music, art, dance, bush skills, circus skills, culture, socialising, working with others. Irrelevantly, all three of our sons are at or above their grades, because I believe ultimately they are happy.

"So, how do you get to take your children out of school?"- is a question we get asked a lot.

Initially, FLEXI-SCHOOLING was our ideal solution. We have been in talks since last June, 10 months. Emailing, waiting, chasing, writing, waiting, ringing, waiting.

Flexi-schooling is an agreement between the head and parents and is now made increasingly difficult with the pressure of having 'outstanding' schools or academies. Our flexi-schooling application was turned down by both schools. The council advising them we would increase the schools' unauthorised absence percentages, which means they would appear a bad school. What school wants that?

http://edyourself.org/articles/flexischooling.php 

So the headteachers looked at solutions to support us and it was for us to stick to the maximum authorised allowance of 10 days for holidays for the May to July period.

But we have bookings to honour from 3 years ago!? This is not enough time to deliver what we promised.

We worked with the schools to meet tests and their timetable, calling on Nana and Pappy to take over childcare for those times.  It still wasn't enough time.

Isn't a new business meant to grow?  The system was stiffling it and us.

Ironically, the local Council's, Learning, Skills & Education Department is based in Old Gaol Block of County Hall.  I expect most parents feel this is apt considering the restrictions placed on taking their own children on holidays during school time. The appeal of reduced costs, to experience the culture of an otherwise unaffordable far flung place often outweighs the cost of the fine.  But most importantly, its a valuable learning experience, outside the classroom.

But our solution came at the end of Winter in the form of an email reply from the Council.  We are now automatically considered  'New Travellers'.  All we have to do is make this clear to those who need to know our label. We fall into the Gypsy, Traveller and Roma category.

As a child, I dreamt of being an art teacher, a dancer and part of a band of bohemian gypsies... it came true.

Please, don't give up on your dreams.










Thursday, 20 March 2014

Dreadlock Journeys

I have been considering what to do with my hair, go red, crop, grow.

It's been a few years since I had dreads and whenever I see them I still love them.


Sara Janssen of Nesting Gypsy has  created the first anthology of dreadlock stories from around the world and is sharing stories here... http://www.nestinggypsy.com/the-dreadlock-journey/


During the summer months touring music festivals, we have met some fabulous dreadlock folks, including the team at Dreadlocks UK. Here's Elijah talking maintenance...






Thursday, 13 March 2014

Did you Know? - I'm a doTERRA Essential Oils Wellness Consultant and you can be too and receive free oils!

I'm into essential oils? Yep, big time.





I have used oils for a long time and last year I won a set of doTERRA oils from Tara at The Organic Sister blog and I was hooked. Peppermint, Lavender and Lemon, which I made into lip balms, sugar scrubs and candles. I made presents, toiletries, cleaning products, and added lemon to my water and cooked with them. N.B. Not all essential oils are safe and please check carefully... this stuff is powerful.

It got me thinking about why we would put stuff on our skin that we would NOT be safe to ingest? Our shop bought toiletries and cleaning products are now reduced. My face cream is now a reusable amber glass jar, which I refill with organic coconut oil and then add drops of frankincense and sometimes a little lavender (we are talking just drops).

If you are interested in ordering or finding out how you can get your own oils at wholesale prices and receive free oils, please go to my doTERRA page at http://www.mydoterra.com/lisaigo/.

Or if you'd like to find out more, Tara is running a free workshop about essential oils for the soul. http://organichomehealth.com/e



Wednesday, 12 March 2014

Monthly Art Classes at the Spa Studio from May

Monthly art workshops will start in May at the Kettering Park Hotel and Spa.  It has a very special relaxing vibe there and all are welcome (its not just for members #bonus).

I will be running drop in sessions if you'd like to pop by for coffee and find out what we will be doing.












Thursday, 6 February 2014

Getting My Health Back Update - Part 2


Rereading my last post and my experience with the Mirena coil, I realised that I do need to point out that this was my experience and that Mirena works brilliantly well for lots of women. It was just not right for me.

Since my 2012 wishes and plans I,

Stopped running - I pulled a muscle and then it was Winter and then I had no energy, and a whole load of other excuses!

Stopped trying to lose weight - hindsight is a great thing, how was I ever going to succeed reducing my calorie intake when my body craved energy and good real food?

Things finally turned a corner when I

                   Started honouring my own needs with self care and listened to my body

                   Started meditating and resting

                   Started reading and researching women's health

                   Started asking for help
               
                   Started taking good supplements

                   Stopped adding sugar to my drinks

                   Cut down my caffeine intake

                   Had surgery

                   Started walking and getting outside, enjoying nature and fresh air

Well that is the quick rundown.  It's been a long slow process. Slowing down has been the key.  Slowing enough to listen to what my body needs and allowing myself time and space to validate whether its a right choice or if it isn't not, not feeling guilty about making changes.

Looking back at the list even those things have changed.  Meditation has gone from laying down resting in quiet to a walking meditation.

The asking for help and researching women's health (Dr Christiane Northrup, Caroline Myss, Dr Sara Gottfried) and reading women's stories (Dr Clarissa Pinkola Estes) resulted in surgery. The best thing was that armed with my little knowledge I avoided an unnecessary full hysterectomy at 42 years old.

My surgery was a day procedure in October 2013.  A 90 second endometrial ablation for my menorrhagia.  It took me longer to recover from the general anaesthetic than the actual procedure.

http://www.drnorthrup.com/womenshealth/healthcenter/topic_details.php?topic_id=67

It was an instant improvement, my loss returned to normal and I don't have to take to my bed or wear black or add extra pads, or be within yards of a toilet anymore.

I've always loved essential oils and won a set of doTerra oils. I was hooked. I then took advantage of the fact that if I joined as an IPC, I could buy them for myself and my family at wholesale prices.

I was spending a fortune on supplements. I tried doTerra's Life Long Vitamin packs, which included vitamins, omega oils and a cellular complex.  This meant I was taking less tablets daily.

As we move into February and the days slowly begin to lengthen, I can now feel my energy returning further. I enjoy walking my dogs, getting out into the fields. Actually, I am now looking at the clock, I need to fit in an hours trek before collecting the little one from school.  We have a big night with him being invested as a Beaver.  Happy days.

Here's to a continuing increase in energy levels, happiness, joy and great health. x












Wednesday, 5 February 2014

Getting my Health Back - 2011 - Menorrhagia what a bloody mess!

I found this unpublished post from 2011... reading it back today, it has shocked me how ill I felt back then!

WARNING THIS POST IS ABOUT HEAVY PERIODS. 

I can't spell it, I can't even say it!  'Menorrhagia' or what became known as 'what a bloody mess - half my life!

I have been battling whether IT really was heavy? How do we know? Because I'm knackered and drained and miserable, that's how!  So I measured my loss with a Mooncup. Gross to some, but so easy to use, and at least I knew how much loss there was. 90ml is considered heavy. Ok tick.  I kept a diary, including ml lost each day and a note of number of days.

After our third son was born I was sterilised.  Then together with that and age it started.

I saw my Doctor, she told me about Mirena an IUD or coil.  Alarm bells rang.  It just didn't sit comfortably with me.  I had scans and checks to check nothing else was going on. I went away and read all the stories and decided I had to try something. I was planning a summer on the road!  My other option was hormone therapy, so I took tablets that stopped it all completely.  I felt great, had more energy, felt human, happy.  For the first six weeks.

After the six weeks I was booked in for the FITTING.  OK it was a little uncomfortable but not bad at all.  Over and done with and ready for my next six weeks on the road.  For me it was not good.  But it takes time.  So I gave it time.  For six weeks I bled.  I continued to gain weight. Then other things happened.  I developed acne, bad acne.  I got joint pain.  I have always suffered with back pain, but never before knees, elbows, ankles and shoulders!!!  And I still bled, a little less but for half the month still. 

I know it can be amazing for some people.  Next more blood tests for Rheumatoid Arthritis and other things. It sounded like rheumatoid arthritis.  I had stopped eating meat and done other things to help like taking supplements

I turned into an old woman, I had a job getting up from a chair.  I'd seize up, have headaches and pain.  I was living on pain killers.  I asked the Dr if it linked with the fitting of the IUD. 

The results came back yes, on the rheumatoid arthritis scale, but presently no inflammatory indicators.  

There and then my Dr booked me in to take it out.  The results were immediate for me.  My head fog cleared, headache lifted. Within a week my wrists and ankles stopped hurting.  A month later, energy levels rising, knees, elbow, shoulder and wrist pain all gone.  I have started to lose some of the weight.  It will take a while for hormone levels to change back. My periods are yet to stabilise.  

Personally, I think I began to develop rheumatoid arthritis as a result of my body fighting this foreign body in my body.  It was doing what our body does naturally to fight off bugs and illnesses. 

A month on and even my back pain has eased.  I am on the road to health and will be looking at other ways to help menorrhagia, if it returns.


I realised, I was scared, scared that I would never be able to run again.  The fear of losing my mobility. I am continuing on the vegetarian, active path and have started WeightWatchers to get to a healthy weight again.  I want to be able to run again in 2012 and not hurt my joints in the process, and raise my energy levels.  I hadn't even realised I missed running.  But not having the choice to, made me want to.  A similar thing happened when my husband was ill 3 years ago.  Within 6 weeks of his aneurysm he raced our eldest son across a field.  Physical health is so important to our happiness.  

Here's to great health, happiness and wealth in 2012. 


............................................................

Re-reading this I must point out a few changes...I now prefer walking to running, I stopped WeightWatchers and I began eating meat again. I've also read a lot of research and books since this post but particularly Dr Christiane Northrup's Women's Bodies, Women's Health and Dr Sara Gottfried's The Hormone Cure.

Getting my Health Back Update - Part 2 coming soon




Friday, 31 January 2014

Dreams and Wishes for a New Lunar Year.

What are your hopes and wishes for the new lunar year?

One of my dreams has always been to live on a smallholding. But where do our deepest dreams come from?


My wish stems from happy memories visiting my Grandparent's smallholding near Castle Ashby in Northamptonshire. The end of a lane of traditional estate cottages.  Door in the middle of four windows, two on each floor, an image from a child's drawing.  I remember the joy of the adventure of our visit, a bus ride, arriving after a long walk from the bus stop along the lane beside hedgerows, in the warm summer sunshine.

One garden was a traditional cottage garden, billowing with tall frothy blooms. The rooms of the cottage were decorated simply, embroided slip covers on armchairs, a scrubbed pine kitchen table, a range and the smell of homemade bread baking and a large shiny brown teapot on the table. The door from the kitchen lead to the working garden which was divided into vegetable beds and enclosures for goats and chickens. To the side was a field, the butcher's white horse resided and my grandparents cared.

The excitement tinged with fear of entering the chicken house to hunt out their ovate treasures, sticks with me still. My Nan's leading me in by the hand and showing me how to gently pick up the warm eggs.

We returned to the cosiness of that kitchen and Nan cooked us egg on toast for lunch.


And we have found it... our very own smallholding, a serendipitous find, within our budget and still in our local area! Our house wasn't on the market but with encouragement and support from our nearest and dearest we put in an offer. Our house went on the market and sold within the first 24 hours!

It has a name and is pretty wild and is the end cottage of a row of Victorian cottages. It has a chicken coop, pigsties, raised beds, trees, a kennel (future shed), a pond, and a woodland. It has a beautiful space which will be my studio. It is small, and is just right for us, a tiny smallholding, which is not too isolated. We will still have neighbours.

We have kept this quiet so far, housemoving can be a slow process sometimes.

I am trusting that if this is meant to be in our future, the Universe will deliver at the right time. There is no need to hurry, everything is occurring in perfect timing. I am learning patience.













Mandala Tent Painting - The Lost Blog Post

Today I found an unpublished post on my blog from March 2013...

Easter weekend means its time to check our festival cafe tents.

Our trip to Disney gave me lots of ideas for painting our tents. But in the end I decided against these and decided on something I have doodled and hennaed lots of times... beautiful mandalas.



My original plan of bright colours also went out the window. I started by painting white ornate frames around our blackboard painted menu wall and then added more frames to lots of new blackboards.


I started the outside by priming the mandalas and Kindred Cafe sign white, with the plan to add bright car spray paints for the colour details. The first tent was complete and left overnight to dry at our friend's garage.


The following morning the vintage effect of the Kindred Cafe sign really stood out and was enough for me to completely scrap the bright colourful plan. Just tidying and edging and fixing a huge drippy mess and we began again on the second tent.


The final tent has a fireplace and candlesticks. There'll be 3 low tables in here, painted with blackboard paint for children to draw on here inside the play/crafting area of the cafe.



Thursday, 18 April 2013

Fruity Flapjack

Today, I tried making Nigella Lawson's, Soot's Flapjack recipe and Rachel Allen's Date Slice.


Not too happy with the cake iness of the date slice I decided I'd try making up a fruity flapjack slice recipe of my own.

Heat oven to 180 degrees.

My fruit filling
2 apples peeled and chopped
150g chopped dates
1 Tablespoon currants
9 fl oz Apple juice
1 Tsp mixed spice
1/2 Tsp natural vanilla extract

Heat apple juice and add all the above ingredients. Stir over heat for about 5 mins.

Flapjack
450g oats
1/2 cup chopped walnuts
75g soft brown sugar
300g butter
50g golden syrup

Mix oats, walnuts and sugar in a bowl. Slowly melt butter and stir in golden syrup.
Add the golden liquid to the dry ingredients and stir.

Add half mixture to 20x20cm square cake tin or circular cake tin. Press down lightly.
Add the fruit mixture and spread over the base. Finally add the rest of the flapjack mixture and press lightly again.

Place in centre of oven for 30 mins or until golden brown.


Wednesday, 20 March 2013

Blackbird Visited on the Last Day of Winter

Yesterday, the last day of Winter 2013, I sat listening to blackbirds singing outside in the garden. The window framed a view of a crumbling stone wall and snow was trying to fall slowly amongst the rain. I sat quietly sipping coffee and smiled to think of the longer days to come and sunshine warming my body.

Soon the boys were busying themselves with preparations for their days at their schools and THUD!

I jumped wondering what sight would shock sleepiness away and was quickly surprised to see two male blackbirds fighting over a female, who had just attempted to swoop away from them and had hit our window loudly. Whilst her mate saw off the rival, she could not get her balance, let alone fly.

Middle and youngest sons came to see what had happened and commented on her strangely outstretched wing, and why were her legs not working properly? "Lets just wait and see." I said, the male blackbirds had gone, no cats were nearby and my husband was out walking our two dogs.

She was just 50 centimetres away from our French doors and it didn't look good. I made the boys stay still and partly hidden and we watched painfully as she turned in circles on her brown belly, tail feathers in the air, eyes unblinking.

I picked up my phone to take a photo but my 5 year old said "no!" and I agreed it didn't feel right photographing a dying bird and explained to our 12 and 5 year old that she looked in a bad way. She stopped spinning and started a strange rocking, seesawing motion, then found her feet again and tucked in her wings and stood frozen.

We continued to watch as she seemed to fall into a sleep with her eyes open. I got down onto the floor and watched sadly as her eyes began to close.

Time was ticking by and the dogs would be home soon. I went out to the utility room and checked that the cat was in, and the wild thing was, thank goodness.

As we watched, and wished her better again, Louis asked "Shall I get a shoebox?" "Good idea!" Max replied. I grabbed a tea towel. I told the boys that we'd move her to a spot where she would be a little safer and warmer?! (I think my logic was maybe she was in shock?)

The boys watched while I slowly opened the door and she then blinked at me (a good sign!) but she did not move at all.

I lightly covered her with the tea towel and gently cupped my hands around each side of her delicate feathered body and lifted her into the box.

We could observe her and she could see out of the box too. She'd be safer if it snowed harder and could stretch and escape when feeling well again.

My husband returned home a few moments later. The dogs completely unaware of why we were watching an orange Nike shoebox with Just Do It! appropriately written on the side.

We weren't doing much about getting ready and within minutes she moved, and as if she had just woken up, hopped out of her sporty bed across the patio and onto a bright red football!

She was blinking at what seemed a normal speed for a blackbird, peering around getting her bearings. She sat for another little while and then flew up, up onto the roof of my studio, gave us a one second blink and flew off in the direction of my mother-in-laws cottage next door.



Friday, 30 December 2011

Gratitude for 2011

It's been a great year and I am so grateful for 2011.

I learnt a lot.

Change - brings new opportunities.

Slow down - notice the beauty in the smallest detail.


Be brave and try new things - you might like it.


Mindfulness - enjoy now.


Fulfil your wishes - Do you know what you want? Make a list.


Meditation - create a clear mind space.


Declutter - Create space.


Happiness - You can have your cake and eat it - yummy happiness.


It's OK to be different - be you, you are uniquely amazing and special.


I just know 2012 will bring more great opportunities, adventure, health, wealth and happiness.

Wishing you all an amazing 2012 xxx




Sunday, 11 December 2011

Dreadlock Journey Update

Why is hair so important?

http://www.buddhistchannel.tv/index.php?id=9,1452,0,0,1,0

My dreadlocks are changing.  I was struggling with a few narrow ones along my hairline that really pulled.

I still love dreadlocks but I have favourites and some I really did not like!  All their own characters and lumps and bumps.  Great during a summer on the road. Then the weather started getting colder it took much longer to dry.

I was really worried when the ends started to break off some of them!  In fact, it felt shorter than when it began in July 2010.

So, I unpicked the uncomfortable ones that had begun to hurt. The relief.

A few weeks passed, I decided the ones I didn't like had to go. Different style.

So a few more came loose. The process is a bit painful and takes a long time.  Each took between 20 minutes and an hour to unlock. I covered them with conditioner, then untied and combed, losing handfuls of hair.

Next the scissors came out and I added a layered fringe to frame my face and stop the slick-over.

I now have 9 dreadlocks dotted around my head.  I don't know if they'll stay or go yet.  I might add more thicker dreadlocks, I might shave my head on one side, or crop it completely! I just like having the freedom to do what I want with it. Perhaps raise more funds for Downs Syndrome or another charity in the New Year.

What are your hair stories? Why is it important? Worst and best styles and cuts?  Tips and Tricks?







Friday, 6 August 2010

Dreadlocks for Down's Syndrome

I finally did it! Two more of my list of 40 things before I turn 40 next May.

1 Get dreadlocks.

2 Raise money for Down's Syndrome.


This charity is very close to my heart as my 3 year old niece has Down's Syndrome. In fact, it was a little girl with Down's Syndrome who I met on junior school work experience, made me realise I would love to teach.



The Down's Syndrome Association help provides information for people with Down's Syndrome, their parents and carers, and those professionals who work with them.


What made this so special is that my sister, Clare (Mimi's mum) is also a hairdresser and with some persuasion, agreed to do my dreads.  She is so strong and balances being a mum to two gorgeous girls, aged 2 and 3 with work and riding. I have been so inspired and proud of her strength, as she recognised Mimi had Down's Syndrome and brought it to the attention of maternity staff.  She battled to get all the support she can for Mimi and herself.

Perhaps I can persuade her to join me in a 5k run next?!!! And get our other sister Zoe involved in that too.

Taster for next time:-  I have lots more creative ideas to blog about.  I am sure these dreads are like little creative antennae.

Tuesday, 11 May 2010

Econess for May

 
This month we have introduced more sustainable eco friendly changes to our lives. Thank you to The Organic Sister - Tara Wagner for your sustainable action list here

1.  Three Minute Showers

My boys love to shower.  I have caught them lying in the shower tray, sitting in the shower, half an hour in the shower! The eldest can shower three times in one day.

I decided it was time to save time in the morning, water and money. 


The first week was a bit tough, as I had to chase them to make sure they did stick to it, but that was it.  They realised that they had more time to do other things in the morning before school and still smell good! 
2.  Growing our own food!


In two weeks, you can see the seedlings are now looking happy in their beds! 


The carrots are just shooting up as tiny seedlings around the edge.
3.  Holidays!

Also, one of the things I wanted to do before my 40th birthday next year, was to own a caravan again. {Great we have managed this before my 39th, next week!} 

                                                                                          Photo courtesy of  lovely  Lorna, next door

Now Max is 2, it was the right time to get back into caravanning.  We now have an ABI Adventurer sports tourer.  They only have three berths, are small (so fit perfectly on our drive) and should be reasonable on fuel, as they are very light.  We are adapting it to make it into a 4 berth and our eldest son will have his own double bed in the VW campervan that we use to tow!
4.  A one car family!


We have decided to remain a one car family.  We have a VW campervan, like the one below, but we have given it some soul, with sari fabric, flowers, a Turkish rug, funky seat covers and stickers.


Last Summer, we sold our second car.  My husband, Kirk, had a subarrachnoid haemorrhage in July, which meant he couldn't drive (not that you would believe it from the photo of him above on the caravan roof).  Miraculously, Kirk is able to drive and work.  It changed our outlook and made us slow down.  We manage with one car, Kirk is home based for work and gets a hire car from work to make meetings or investigations, if he needs one.  


I would love to convert to veggie oil, so we can take advantage of the oil used by local restaurants on the High Street. See Sara Janssen's blog about their conversion story here.

5. Buying a Mooncup for me Lady Garden!

I won't say too much about this, as it kind of freaks out my husband and thirteen year old son who asked what it was!!  Read about it here.  I did after reading a sticker in the University loo!  Give it a try and see if you can freak someone out too. 

They are cheaper online and you can find discount voucher codes, to reduce the cost further.  As well, as the ecological benefit, did you know we are taxed on the sanitary items we need?!


I must tell you about the time my eldest son asked me what a period was?  He was about 8 or 9 years old at the time.  We are open and so I just said, "It's something a lady has each month, if it happens she knows she isn't pregnant."  I waited for his next question tentatively.  Boy was I relieved I hadn't gone into any more detail, as he looked at me strangely and said "No Mum, what does - that's it, period -mean?!"

6.  Not buying papers or magazines. 

I used to buy lots of magazines, but found I would look at the pictures, scan and discard.  I now read lots of blogs!  See the blogs I love to follow. 

I love to read books and have started to buy my books from car boot sales.  I managed to find the following books (which were all on my wish list) for 20p each!

The Library of Shadows by Khaled Hosseini (Author)A Thousand Splendid Suns (Paperback)     The Time Traveler's Wife  Wild Swans : Three Daughters of ChinaThe Valkyries: An Encounter with Angels

7.  Carboot Sales - Lush

Great for reusing, recycling good, old or new things. We have found things for the house and van too.  A great vintage seat cover in the soul bus was a 1930's door hanging for £5.  Also, the vegetable seedlings (in the garden photo above) were 65p a pot of 6 or 7 plants!



I'd love to know what your best eco projects and car boot sale finds are?

Lisa xx


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